Are there some areas you would like to change? Are there some things in your life that you would like more? or less?

Do you feel that you may not be getting the best results that you could get in the areas that matter most to you?

It may be a question of FOCUS.

Let me ask you a few more questions: Do you happen to say “oh, but I can’t help myself, that’s the way I am!” or “I am always forgetting to do that, and I always end up getting angry or resigning when I should be strong and try further!” or something like “this damn impatience of mine, it makes me miss some great opportunities!”

Could that be that you are focusing on your limits? could it be that you spend a lot of time considering your weakness and where you came short?”

May I suggest you another alternative? why not changing your perspective and concentrating on your strengths? on your achievements? on your possibilities and skills?

If you may agree with me that what you focus on DOES really expand itself, do you start seeing the potential for increased opportunity and renewed fulfillment?

Let me give you a few examples:

A woman has been lately confessing being complaining every day, day long, that her husband and her children were egoistical, untidy and unconsidering for her by leaving her all the housework to do, and increasing her amount of work by leaving all their clothes and personal things lying all over the house.

It is all as simple as that, by focusing all day long on how uncaring her family was, this woman made her life miserable, adding to this that she increasingly felt lonely, trapped in the feeling of not being loved, of being considered like a mere piece of furniture in the house, she finally ended up growing more ironic and self-centered, distant and cold to her family’s concerns.

Why do you think did the situation grow into something that not only made the woman’s life miserable, but also the lives of the people living around her?

She built and raised up a monument of unfullfillment because the only thing she focused on was what was lacking in her life, was she complained about, putting herself in the role of a victim, of a passive victim of what was happening in her life.

Can you admit with me, that it is highly possible that the different members of her family did love her? that although they did not tidy up their things they spent time together in the evening, they went out eating, riding bicycle or listening to music together? Although her husband did leave his socks on the floor, he went out everyday, working to provide the family with enough opportunity to live a pleasant life. He probably did take his wife in the arms while they watched TV at night, and did tell her that she was beautifully dressed up for that particular day when they visited their friends.

So, we do have the power to make our lives miserable or happy, we do have the possibility of considering things looking at them from different angles and perspectives. We Do have the CHOICE between drawing motivation and strength from ALL THE THINGS that already go well, or sapping our interest and energy by concentrating on ALL THE THINGS that are going wrong.

I would just remind your that we DO have options, you do have choices to take between choosing to fall under the pressure and weight of all the things that are not going as they Should be going, feeling powerless and stuck in front of an insurmountable mountain of work. OR, you can CHOOSE to empower yourself by focusing on what already goes well, and which ACTION you can take to develop and capitalize on your strengths, by building on what you already achieved and choose to work day by day to bring those things to the next level so that they will naturally help building down the things that are less satisfying in yourself, and in your world.

AND, although changing perspective may not modify your circumstances to 360 degree right away, changing your perspective, and FOCUSING on what is strong in your life, developing what is already good will contribute to modifying your attitude, and the effect circumstances have on you. Instead of feeling down and powerless, as if your destiny was depending on all the things that matter to you, you will find yourself the master of your thoughts, you will feel RESPONSIBLE for your life and will see increasing opportunities to take action to start MAKING your life more like you would like it to be.

As a matter of fact, I just want to encourage you to make the choice on changing your FOCUS, changing the glasses through which you see the world, and directing your eyes to what empowers you, to what fills your heart and life with hope, strength and motivation, looking ahead and positively working day by day on the things that you would like to change.

I wish you a wonderful day, and don t forget:: WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPAND!! ;o))

I’d be happy to know what you focus on: what are your strengths? what did you already achieve? what can you do to change your perspective? what are your dreams? what are the things you will achieve? what are your plans of actions for a positiver future?

Best greetings, Naomi